Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Things Have A Way Of Working Out

I've recently had some turn over with my job. Within the past year and a half two children moved out of the area so they could no longer come here for child care. Another child stopped coming because she turned 12 and her mother decided it was time to let her stay home and get on the bus herself.  Another child had two new siblings added to her family so her mom decided to stay home full time.

I've had a large number of children in the past and I've even had a waiting list at times. I went into this summer with the lowest number of kids I have had since I started. All of them part time.

I was freaked out about it and we had to come up with a plan on how to save money in other areas in order to make it work. Especially since the IRS still hasn't given us our tax return. (Many adoptive families have had this issue. They are still "reviewing" our adoption expenses that we claimed.)

There is a lot of pressure on me when things change and I make less. It is made worse by the fact that I have absolutely no control over it. I lost a lot of sleep over these changes.

We are now almost a month into summer vacation. Despite the decrease in pay...I have to admit....having less kids right now is a blessing in disguise.

Jayden is a high maintanence baby. No doubt about it. He likes it when I am in the room when he naps. (How does he always know?!?!) If I am on the opposite side of a gate from him, he flips out. He still doesn't sleep through the night. He is a needy little one. Which is fine, but it makes 12 hour work days very hard on me.

Having a day or two off during the week is kind of awesome. And I honestly don't know what I would have done if I had to work all day, everyday. I am not sure I would have survived it.

On the days without other kids we can be more flexible with our schedule. We both can catch up on sleep- I sometimes get to take a nap with him and he sleeps longer because there are no big kids around to play with. It also gives us more opportunities to go off on adventures with grandma while she has off from teaching for the summer.

This is one of those situations that seems devestating at first but then as it happens you realize it was exactly what you needed. The universe gave you exactly what you needed when you didn't even know that was what you needed.

It kind of reminds me of our long struggle to start our family. Who knew someday I would look back at it all and be at peace with it and think it worked out and had the best possible outcome.

Maybe there is a little lesson in this for me.


  1. Our expenses are also "being reviewed" sorry you too are waiting....it was making me made with the 5 months they have had, but as long as we get it! BTW, my son is a year old but not walking. I keep thinking of your baby(eventhough I don't know you) and wish mine was walking too! :)

  2. What a great post, and a good reminder for all of us! Glad you are enjoying your summer without too much work!

  3. when you are in the thick of it, it makes a difference! Doesn't seem quite so great, but turns out swell in the end. I have several friends that have gotten the credit within the last few weeks, so hopefully it will be soon!

  4. I agree, I too run a daycare out of my home and I am amazed at how these things work themselves out. Enjoy your "quiet" summer with Jayden!!

  5. I'm glad that it worked out for the best!! It gives you more time with your super sweet little man!!! I am sorry the IRS is STILL withholding your money. RIDICULOUS. <3 you!

  6. My sitter is currently in the same boat. She has been doing home daycare for 35 years. She said it kind of goes in spurts like this. The way it looks right now, she will have one during the day, and a couple before and after school! Her husband tried to get her to retire! I said, "Please wait until my Mea is out of fifth grade!" Only six more years, then she can. She swears she'll never retire, she'd go crazy without the kids there. :) I am on a mission to find her some more kids. :)

  7. This is a lesson I learned recently too. I was a mess and in a bad place a few months ago...for a while. I was stressed about money and work and everything in between (cause when you're stressed about one thing all of a sudden it makes sense to stress about every little thing in life). But after many conversations with the boy and many, many sleepless nights, I finally am at peace and see how everything worked out. It was just a disaster getting there. Hopefully you're peace is on it's way soon too :)