Saturday, April 28, 2012

Twitterversary

This week makes three years that I have been on twitter.

I always roll my eyes when I hear people talk about twitter and say it's where people just post pictures of what they eat and tell boring details of their lives.

I always say if you don't "get" twitter, you are not following the right people.

I love the tweets that show up in my timeline. I get a mix of politics, television, comedy, infertility, and adoption. Everyone has their own mix.

This is really silly, but I first joined twitter when I saw an interview with Matthew Perry on Ellen. I always thought he was really funny and I thought following him on twitter would be fun, so I joined and followed him. (He's not as funny as I had hoped, but I still follow him.)

I went on to find other comedians and funny people to follow that I have enjoyed.

But, it's the average everyday people tweeting about their lives that I love the most.

Now that I am a mother, being able to follow other mothers with children the same age as Jayden has been priceless. Who needs baby books when you can talk to real mothers everyday that are living the same thing? And the mothers with older children are always there to give advice when you tweet a question. It keeps me sane as a stay at home mom. The adult interaction is much needed.

But, before I was ever a mother, I found a community of people that changed my life forever.

The infertility community on twitter is amazing. And it's become huge over the last three years.

When you are an infertile surrounded by fertile people, you always feel like you have to hide so much of your struggle. You can't talk about the "TMI" of infertility. The treatments, the symptoms, the exams, the feelings.

Within the infertile twitter community, no thought is too dark or scary. No symptom or question is "TMI" (too much information) for the rest of us. Anyone can tweet their feelings and it's understood. It's accepted. And you receive comfort.

I get emotional just thinking about everyone's journeys. Our community has seen so much loss. So much pain. So many failed cycles. But we've also seen so many miracle babies born. So many families made. I've cried for my friends in the community through both the bad and the good.

I have made friends for life in this community. People I can go to with any problem. People that are always there for me no matter what. I completely credit them with getting me through my cancer diagnosis. I honestly don't know if I could have gotten through it without them. And when we adopted Jayden, the excitement came pouring in. I get chills just thinking about it.

I am so proud to call myself a part of this community of strong, amazing women.

7 comments:

  1. Hear hear! It's amazing how many people's lives we really care about because of twitter. I'll never forget the look on my DH's face when you first tweeted about Jayden. We were getting ready to leave to go shopping and I spotted your tweets & actually clapped my hands for you (and then cried). He thought I was a nut :)

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  2. That is such a beautiful post. Ah! I'm all teary now. And seriously, the support and connection on Twitter is incredible. You could NEVER find that in your own IRL comunity. When I think of you, funnily, I often think of The West Wing and the goldfish scene ;-)

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  3. You, my dear friend, are one of the strongest.

    Ever so glad to call you my friend.

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  4. Reading this post got me all teary (and the comments too!). Though I'm not part of that community of infertility, I've found such a community of friends and support through Twitter. I hurt for your struggles with infertility, and I love reading your joys of being a mom (and the not so fun parts too). You rock, Lisa. Seriously. So does Twitter. I so agree with your sentiment that people who don't "get" Twitter just haven't followed the right people. I can't believe it took me so long to "find" it in the first place! <3 you!

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  5. I love Twitter. It made me feel A LOT less alone when going through the adoption stuff. So, happy Twitterversary!

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