Thursday, November 15, 2012

Frumpy Mom

I can't think of anything I have bought for myself since Jayden was born. That is not a complaint. Honestly, I would rather buy things for Jayden than myself. But recently when we went to the zoo, the plastic in the back of my sneaker broke and popped through the fabric and cut my foot. Of course it happened at the point of the zoo farthest from our car. I had to hobble with my foot half out of the shoe the entire walk back to the car. It was obvious I needed new sneakers, which Adam had been saying for a while. It was getting too cold for flip flops and other than one pair of dress shoes, I don't own anything else.

So, I broke down and bought myself sneakers that cost me an amount that made me cringe. I broke one foot in high school and the other foot in the college so I need sneakers with decent support. I can't just go out and buy something cheap or else my feet will hurt whenever the weather changes. (Yes, I am old.) So logically I knew it was necessary, but it was painful to spend that much.

I was supposed to buy a new pair of jeans and a sweater too, but I couldn't make myself do it after the shoe purchase. They are still sitting in the online shopping cart.

I just feel awful spending money on stuff like clothes for myself. They are so expensive and it feels wasteful. Maybe it's because I buy all of Jayden's clothes used that it makes buying new clothes for myself feel extra ridiculous. I think it's also because I knew going into our adoption that sacrifices had to be made and clothes was always on the top of the list. Especially since I work from home. If we have any money for clothes, I feel like it should go to Adam since he works outside of the home. But, I will admit all of my clothes are extremely worn out. To an embarrassing point.

Nothing has highlighted my frumpiness more than the mom of the two toddlers I watch coming in nice clothes to pick them up after work every day. She looks so nice and professional and my hair is up in a messy (dirty) pony tail and I am wearing junky shorts and a t-shirt. Oh yeah, and my house is a mess. Always. I might as well start coming to the door wearing a snuggie every day.

I could really use a whole new wardrobe. Underwear and bras too. But, that's not going to happen. So maybe I will splurge on those jeans and a sweater and maybe a couple new t-shirts. That way I have something to wear out of the house. I'm telling you it's going to be painful to hit the order button though.



9 comments:

  1. Are there any second hand stores, or consignment stores in your area? Everything I buy for myself has to be on clearance before I buy it. I also shop from Target a lot because they are cheap. I will not hesitate to buy Mea something new, but I am really bad about paying full price for things for myself.

    Might be worth checking out if there are any consignment shops. You won't feel so guilty then. :)

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    1. I should have explained in my post- I have to buy plus size and tall...so my size is never in a consignment shop. And our Target barely has any plus size clothing. I was really disappointed when I checked recently.

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    2. That's a shame, I was going to suggest those things too. I work at Kohls and they have some pretty good clearance deals at times. I would check there (they have a clearance section online, and for women's/plus size).

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    3. I completely understand. I am inbetween XL in regular clothes, and on the small side of the plus sizes. I am also not quite tall enough to be considered tall, 5'7", but not quite short enough that pants fit. I am all legs, and no torso.

      Old Navy usually has a pretty good selection, and I am positive that they have talls in their plus selection. You might take a look at that too.

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  2. With a little effort/research I find better deals for clothes online than in second hand stores- at least where I live. And you can find the exact size you need. In my case it's a "short".. otherwise I have to roll my pants up and look like I'm in elementary school. With Black Friday just around the corner you'll be able to find some very good deals online.
    For me, having a pair of jeans that fit properly made me feel a lot better about myself- even if I still wasn't dressed as nicely as the other preschool parents.
    Good luck.

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  3. Aww. It IS hard when there are so many other priorities. The other day I ordered myself a new tee shirt sporting my favorite football team's logo because my other one had holes in it. Ha. I felt kinda crummy about it. But, wearing it makes me happy, and happy Mom = happy kid, so it's justifiable. If you were going out and buying Coach purses that'd be one thing... but you deserve every bit of some new clothes! Just do it! <3

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  4. I was recently doing laundry and realized that I have purchase one pair of jeans, three shirts, two bras and 5 undies since the boys were born... just over 4 years ago. Being a SAHM I tend to wear my "house clothes", once good clothes that is not too big, too small, too holey, or too stained up from when the boys were infants. Hubs gets on my but for not buying myself any new clothes, I too have the feeling that with money being so tight and the Twins growing our of their clothes they become a priority. Maybe... just maybe one day soon things will work out financially so that I will be able to buy a few extra pieces of clothing and undergarments. I too have to shop in plus size and its borderline criminal what they are charging

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    1. YES! And it's good to hear I am not alone in this. Thank you!

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  5. *sigh* I literally wear pajama pants everyday. I can't imagine what the parents think of me at drop off and pick up, looking like I just rolled out of bed. I have 2 pairs of jeans and one has a huge hole along the top. I also put shopping for clothes for myself off. Just... hate it. Mike's clothes have gotten bad too. I just bought him some for his birthday and am insisting he throw some old stuff away. Kids clothes are more important and so much for fun to shop for. My mom is a stickler that I have to shop for myself though. I know I do. I hope you will get the chance to do so too. :)

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