He Gets It

Adam and I went out to dinner for my birthday and we were sitting outside on a bench while we were waiting for a table. Adam was talking about a friend at work who already has two children. He told Adam that him and his wife have decided they want to have another child. They have two boys and they really wanted a girl too. Adam said his friend would probably announce in a couple months that they are pregnant because she always gets pregnant fast.

He told me all that and then there was silence. We were sitting on the bench watching people as they walked by. Then Adam said, "It must be nice to just decide to get pregnant and then go ahead and get pregnant a month or two later." He even went on to say he can't even imagine what that would be like. He said for us deciding to have a baby is more complicated than buying a house. I said it's more like us trying to build a house from scratch all by ourselves even though we have no idea how to do it and don't own any tools.

Then just last week Adam was reading his Facebook newsfeed and he came across something my friend from college wrote. She is now pregnant with her third child. I don't know what it was that she wrote, but it caused Adam to say that it must be hard for me to read her status updates.

Wow, it felt so good for him to say that. It is really hard for me, but I have never said anything to him about it before.

Adam has always been the zen "It will happen when it happens" person. For him to now be saying what I have been feeling, it's really nice.

It only took seven years of trying for a family for it to happen, haha.