Saturday, June 19, 2010


We went to the drive in last night. I figured it would do us some good to get out. We always have fun when we go to the drive-in. And, hey, if I end up crying, at least I'll be in my own car! We saw Karate Kid and The Bounter Hunter. Karate Kid was the compromise movie. I sit through that and then Adam sits through the romantic comedy. To my surprise, I actually really liked Karate Kid. I recommend it.

As we were pulling out of the driveway to go to the drive-in, Adam noticed there was a package on the front porch. He stopped, ran up to get it, and then threw it in the backseat of the car. It was an box and was addressed to me. I didn't have anything sharp to open the box with so it just sat there. Adam gave me a big lecture about spending money, but I kept insisting I didn't remember ordering anything!

We didn't get home until 2:30 in the morning. As soon as we got inside, I opened the package. It was a book called "The Woman's Book of Courage. Meditations for Empowerment and Peace of Mind." I found the slip in the box and there was a note from a friend of mine about how much this book helped her through some tough times.

I was then standing in my kitchen at 2:30 in the morning crying. Crying about how lucky I am to have such amazing people in my life.

Just earlier that evening I was talking to Adam about how amazing that friend was for being there for me the day we got the call about the Iowa baby. She called me from work and talked to me about every detail of the situation. She helped me do the research needed to make the decision to move forward with the baby. I trust her 100% because she has already been through this process. She knows which risks are okay and which ones are just too much for Adam and I. I am so lucky to have someone like that to talk to and run everything by.

I have another friend who also adopted from our agency and her wait was even longer than the wait we have had so far. She has been amazing at keeping my hope alive. She knows what it's like to have a long wait and always knows the right thing to say. She sent me a lady bug pin for good luck and I keep it on my nightstand.

Between them, my twitter/blog friends, my amazing family, and Adam, I have a great support system.

Oh, did I mention how awesome my mom is? When I got the call about not being chosen for the Iowa baby, the kids were getting off the bus. She left work, came right over, told me to go relax (cry) in the bedroom, and played hot potato and other games with the kids until they got picked up.

Despite everything that has happened, I really do have a lot to be thankful for.


  1. I am so very glad that you have such a great support system. It really makes all the difference in this process, doesn't it! Oh, and on a sidenote, I've been on the fence about seeing Karate Kid in the theater. I think you pushed me over the edge. :) (We have no drive-ins in Alaska...)

    Hope you enjoy your weekend!

  2. Awesome to hear about the amazing people in your life! A great support system is a must and it seems like yours is in place. So glad you enjoyed the movies!!

  3. Though it is hard, try to remain positive. It will happen.

    Thinking of you,

  4. How wonderful to have a great support system!

    Our foster sons left our home almost two years ago, but as we sat waiting for a concert we attended to begin last night, a dad and his four close-in-age boys walked past us and I lost it. Crying definitely is balm for the soul. :)

  5. Lisa, I'm so thrilled to hear that you have such a substantial support system there with you.

    I have a book that seems to have similar principles involved with meditation and breathing exercises. It's helped me immensely. I hope this one will work for you as well.


  6. It sounds like you have a wonderful support system!

  7. I'm so so happy you have a support system like that in place to help you make it through these stormy days. You deserve to be surrounded by that kind of love.

  8. I am so happy that you have such a wonderful support system, both on and offline. :)

  9. How awesome to have such a great support system! I have lost quite a few friends through this journey. We still talk, but we're not as close as we were before. But on the other hand, some of my friendships have grown much deeper. It really shows you who your true friends are.