Tuesday, July 27, 2010

The Baby Shower Invitation



I got an invitation to a baby shower in the mail. As soon as I pulled the invitation out of the envelope enough to see what it was, my gut reaction was: Wow. Bold Move. I can't wait to see who sent ME a baby shower invitation. I don't know anyone who is pregnant right now who would send me one. I opened it up and was shocked to see it was from one of the parents of the kids I work with. Well, used to work with. Her daughter came here for three years but recently had her last day here.

During her entire pregnancy, I felt like she threw her pregnancy in my face an unnecessary amount. My tolerance for that kind of stuff is high. I've been on my own journey to motherhood for over 7 years. I've been to my fair share of showers that I cried before and after. I have had to hold back tears through countless pregnancy and birth announcements. It honestly takes a lot for me to feel like someone is being insensitive to my situation. But, seriously, she talked about her pregnancy with me a comical amount. It felt like every sentence out of her mouth either started or ended with "because I am pregnant."

The next time I saw her after telling her on the phone that I needed to have a hysterectomy, she told me in detail about the cute way she planned on telling her family that she is pregnant. She also went on about morning sickness. I barely held it together and burst into tears in the bathroom right after she left.

But even putting all that aside, we're not friends. She has never invited me to do anything with her as a friend. It makes no sense to invite me to the baby shower unless she is inviting every person she has ever met.

In the three years her daughter came here for daycare, she never even gave me as much as a Christmas card. (She is actually the only parent to never give me anything.) But, I am supposed to go to her baby shower and buy her a gift?

I wouldn't even know anyone there. Could you imagine if I went? I just picture myself in the bathroom crying.

Some people just really have no clue what other people are going through.

25 comments:

  1. Excuse my language, but what a fucking inconsiderate bitch.

    May I please have her address? I'd love to give her a lesson on class. (Funny considering the language I just used, no?)

    I'm so sorry, Lisa. Some people are just pathetic.

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  2. WOW! Just WOW!!! That's just crazy. I agree, some people are just pathetic!

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  3. Some people are just mean! That is so random that you even got invited, and insensitive not to have prepared you for it.

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  4. WOW! I suppose she could just be greedy. I also agree that some people are just pathetic.

    *hugs*

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  5. Ugh, what an idiot! At least you won't have to deal with her anymore if her daughter isn't with you anymore.

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  6. I have met insensitive people before, but she beats them all!!!!

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  7. That seems crazy heartless and totally greedy. She clearly needs a refresher course in sensitivity training.

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  8. wow! What an ass! Rip it up and if she asks...say it got lost in the mail!

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  9. How freaking insensitive, heartless, and honestly, bitchy! At least if her kids aren't there anymore you don't have to keep your tongue if you see her! *HUGS*

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  10. Holy freaking crap Lisa. I cannot believe she sent you a freaking baby shower invite! What the hell? I don't understand the inconsiderateness of people. *huge hugs* I agree with ripping it up. Ugh.

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  11. Wow, the nerve! Sounds like she just wants gifts... I've known people like that, they invite everyone they have ever known to there shower just to get gifts.
    Sorry you have to deal with her! *hugs*

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  12. Wow. That is so incredibly self centered of her. My jaw dropped over her rambling after you told her about the hysterectomy. How insensitive. I'm with everyone else- what nerve!

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  13. Two words come to my mind when I think of her: Gift Whore.

    I'm sorry you had to deal with her and be subjected to such insensitivity.

    (((HUGS)))

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  14. This goes without saying but I seriously hope you aren't even THINKING about going. Or sending a gift. Heck no. What a crass woman...oops, I probably shouldn't call her that, you know, because she's pregnant.

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  15. Yeah, what a bey-otch. Don't send a gift. Who cares what Miss Man.ners would say about that.

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  16. I totally agree with you! I've had some very random baby shower invitations sent to me: my patient's daughter who I don't know, a lady that I work with's daughter that I dont know, etc. etc. I fel like they just want me to come for the gift...and I dont go to them. In fact....I think it is rude to invite people that you dont really know or ever talk to.... People can be such jerks.

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  17. So this is her second, right? Annnnd she's having another shower??? Maybe it's just me, but I didn't think you were supposed to get a shower with the second one... But I guess that just adds to the list of inappropriate things she does out of complete lack of grace or compassion.

    Please be sure to give her the double middle-finger greeting for me next time you see her.

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  18. People and their stupidity amaze me sometimes. I am so sorry!

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  19. WOW! That is really REALLY rude of her! I guess I could pass on it a little bit if she didn't know what you were going through, but considering that she knew...WOW! I am so sorry, Lisa. :(

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  20. wow. holy rudeness, batman. I can't believe how awful that woman sounds.

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  21. Rude much?! I'm sorry you are acquainted with her. I figured it would be one of your best friends that truly agonized over sending it, but no, heartless woman instead. I'm sorry. Maybe burning it would have some satisfaction. Or putting it back in the mail marked "return to idiot sender". Who knows! Sorry Lisa. Deep breaths sweetie and burning things help! ;)

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  22. Unbelievably rude!!! Wow - just wow. Sorry you have such an insensitive person around. For this one, I deifinitely wouldn't send a gift!!!

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  23. Woah what a jerk! Some people amaze me. I had someone who considered my her BEST friend do the same thing to me and constantly throw her accidental pregnancy (with a guy she'd only know for a few months) in my face. I told her off and full intend to never speak to her again.

    This woman is just a bad person and clearly feels so little about herself she has to pick on you like she's 5. Ugh!

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  24. Either this woman is truly that ignorant or she's very insecure and this is the "one thing" she feels like she going for her. Either way, just "ugh."

    One of the girls I've had the displeasure of being forced into social situations with accidentally got pregnant by her new boyfriend one drunken night last summer (they married for the baby and one year later, go figure, divorced).

    She knew it was going to be a challenge for my husband and I to conceive and that I've struggled with that notion, but every time since she got pregnant she would get me alone and brag about her "miracle" baby.

    Then she would launch into a big, long speech about how I'm "trying too hard to get pregnant" (no, quite the opposite. I'm concerned why it hasn't happened in 2 years, but we're not actively going to the doctor and TRYING yet) and that if we "just relax" it would happen on it's own.

    If she hadn't been pregnant, I would have probably introduced my fist to her face.

    (oh and by the way, while she was doing this she was drinking glasses of red wine and inhaling 2nd hand smoke because her doctor supposedly told her it was "good for the baby." Yeah. Just...yeah.)

    Long story, but I feel your pain.

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